Change.

To the spiritual core of us, change and growth is what life is all about.

When we are purely spirit, there is no duality, no tension.  No strife, no struggle.  Sounds ideal, doesn’t it?  Milk and honey all the time.  But guess what?  In that stress-free, singular environment, there is no growth.  No learning, no lessons.  In order to develop and grow as beings, we decide to come to play on Earth – in a body.

The body is an amazing companion for us.  Immediate feedback in the form of sensations and emotions gives us tremendous information.  This is true whether we are fully aware and attentive or whether we are on autopilot and are asleep to the truth of who we are.

So we come to a place of duality, to learn a lesson. Maybe we desired to be more compassionate;  maybe we desired to understand another point of view.  Perhaps we wanted to learn about pain, or about giving or taking.  There are simply an infinite number of lessons and choices!

So now that we are here in this magnificent place of duality and choice, we often find ourselves in pain.  Why is that?

Spirit has come here to change and grow.  However, to the physical body,  stability is king.  The physical body craves comfort and the known – so whenever the lessons come, the body often grows fearful and worried.  Combine that with the growing pains of the lesson being learned, often the body finds itself hurting on many levels and having to communicate this pain to its trusted companion, the spirit.

But guess what?  Spirit detests pain.  Even though it craves growth, our spiritual selves will run and hide from pain if given any opportunity to do so.  So when the body communicates its messages to the spirit, if there is any pain involved, the spirit will check out, in part or in whole.

What a great dance!  The spirit wants to learn, the body goes into pain, and the spirit leaves.  Round and round we go, finding ourselves craving growth and at the same time fighting the growth we’ve created.

However, there are ways to deal with the changes we’ve created!

First of all – humor heals the deepest wounds!  If you can find any way at all to laugh at the pickle you’ve gotten yourself in, you’re more than halfway to the solution.  Then, the real healing can be available to you!

Second – don’t beat yourself up for being in a situation where you don’t yet feel you know all the answers!  The whole purpose of growth is to learn, explore, and evolve.   If we had fully developed already, there would be no reason for the duality and evolution.  So validate and encourage yourself for the decision to learn and grow.  It truly takes a magnificent heart to take on whichever lesson you’re in.  You are more than equal to it!!!

Third – be still with your body and emotions and just listen.  Listen, watch, and let it go.   As paradoxical as it may seem,  if you as spirit are able to be present with your body – who is your faithful companion – without judgement, without fear, but simply listening to the messages without fighting them or resisting them, something very wonderful happens.   Peace starts to set in because you have decided to let go of fighting the body’s messages.   Not only that, but once you start to realy be present with the body without judging it for being a body, it will start to let go of its pain!  It becomes reasured and trusting of you as spirit, and begins to allow more change.   The spirit can then be even more present with the body.

It’s a beautiful, upward spiral!

Finally – and most important – BE GOOD TO YOU!  If you remember nothing else when you are dealing with a change or feeling stuck, remember to treat yourself well.  You are the only person on the entire planet just like you, and you have amazing gifts and talents that nobody else has.  You are deserving of love just for being you.   You don’t have to be perfect in order to love yourself and be kind to yourself – and it is so much more fun to learn and grow when you are feeling validated!

These four practices can and will develop over time.  You won’t instantaneously drop all your fear and become giggly and happy – but in a relatively short amount of time, you can develop the ability to be present, kind, humorous and validating.  Be gentle and easy with yourself as you’re growing!

If you would like more information about your particular challenges and growth or would like to learn simple yet powerful techniques for moving through emotion and being more present spiritually, check out the Work With Me page at Spirit Life Journeys!

In peace,

Kelly

Hours, days, weeks and years pass by.

The yearning and gnawing inside start small at first.  Sometimes it is only heard during very quiet moments, or in the wee hours of the morning when nobody else is around,  when we’re alone.

Like a snowball gaining momentum and mass, the gnawing grows.  The intuituve understanding that there is more to be done, that we are so very much more than what we’re settling for, starts to get larger.

More years pass;  occasionally we look up and know we were meant for more, but say pacifying things instead.

“Better not make waves.”

“I have it really good, why mess things up.”

“I don’t even know what I want to do – no use worrying about it.”

Those fears have a lot of weight in the beginning.  After all, we have obligations.  Responsibilites.

Best not to aim too high, eh?

So back down we go – treading water, hoping someday we get our time, our truth.

More years pass by.  And the gnawing grows.  Like a chrysalis morphing into a butterfly, we get increasingly uncomfortable.

And one day, the calling is so strong, it’s no longer possible to ignore.  That, and the realization that, despite the fears and despite not knowing where to go or what to do,  movement must happen.

One step – just a single step.

Then another.

And another.

And all of a sudden, you have wings and are soaring.

That first single step is the vital start to your journey.  Whatever that journey is, wherever it takes you, the truth of it is this – YOU are the reason for it.  Your light is the purpose, the reason and the answer, all rolled up into a miraculous core.  It is who you are, and its non-negotiable.

That first step can be the simplest of things – reading a new book, taking a walk, learning to say NO instead of acquiesing.  Whatever it is, it is your purpose at that moment – the grand sum of all you are.

The fears may coax you from time to time into standing still or backing down.   That’s ok – we all go at our own pace.

Just don’t lose sight of the fundamental truth of your nature.

And what is that truth?

You are a unique spark of brilliance, unlike anything else made before you.  Of all the billions of people who have ever lived or will live, there is no other precisely like you, that has the gifts you have to offer.

If you do not shine that light, nobody can.  Nobody else has it but you.

That is how magnificent and important you are.

Take the step.

Shine.

In peace,

Kelly

 

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